why i don’t idolize anyone

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onto today’s topic: why i don’t idolize anyone 🔦 

there’s a difference between looking up to someone, and idolizing them. one serves as a point for personal growth, and the other sets up unrealistic expectations and unhealthy standards.

to me, idolization looks like putting someone up on a pedestal and romanticizing another’s success without giving a second thought to any failures, challenges or negative traits. it’s the intense desire to replicate another person’s status, and i believe this is an unhealthy mindset. 🧠 

nobody should ever be put up that high on a pedestal.

don’t get me wrong, there are many people i respect and look up to, and there are most definitely traits in others that i want to emulate. does that mean i want my life to be someone else’s replica? not at all. the people around us are meant to make us better people — of course i’ll also look up to my friends, family, mentors and peers.

idolizing them, however, strips your individuality. we all have our own life stories, and using another’s as a strict blueprint isn’t a one-way ticket to success. 🎟️ 

role model and idol are not synonymous in my head. idolization is a blind devotion, while a role model implies deep respect and appreciation for another’s character.

i don’t idolize anyone because i accept that challenges unique to me will come my way, the same way my own unique success will. i don’t want to trap myself in a box of success built from my perception of another person’s.

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